Twilight-Breaking Dawn: The Bonds Of Motherly Love: How Twilight Helps Mothers And Daughters Communicate

21 Jan

What resources were at your disposal to have clear communication with your parents when you were growing up?  Teens nowadays have The Twilight Saga.  Cathy Leogrande has written an essay on this topic  let’s take a look.

One of the many conversations that mothers and daughters had with each other concerned sex before marriage.  This conversation starter allowed daughters to open up to their mothers by discussing birth control and pregnancy in high school.

The mothers and daughters interviewed for the essay already had strong relationships but felt that it was easier to bond over Twilight and to see each other’s point of view on different topics.

Given the hype and media saturation of the books and films in what positive ways has Twilight impacted your life?

Source:

Click, Melissa, Aubrey, Jennifer and Morawitz-Behm Elizabeth (2010) Bitten By Twilight: Youth Culture, Media and the Vampire Franchise.  New York: Peter Lang Publishing, Inc.

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112 Responses to “Twilight-Breaking Dawn: The Bonds Of Motherly Love: How Twilight Helps Mothers And Daughters Communicate”

  1. Open Book January 21, 2013 at 12:57 PM #

    How interesting! I have to think about this one. I was raised to value education and community service. TBH I rarely had time and was too busy trying to compete with my brothers academically for a serious relationship. Please the last thing I wanted as an adolescent was to be tied down. Hahahaha! But to answer your question? Its sad family’s don’t place more value on education and are relying on the media to raise and teach their children values and self worth. However, if Twilight helped mothers bond with their daughters that’s better than nothing.

    • parisienne January 21, 2013 at 11:58 PM #

      OB,

      I do agree. Its better than nothing. However, IMO. They could have chosen something more mature to bond over.

    • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 5:01 PM #

      OB,

      You’re crazy.

      Paris this was a big challenge, if you asked for negative reception(s) to “Twilight.” I’m sure I could find them on the web somewhere. Therefore it would be easy to comment in that way also. This will take some work,I will be back soon.

      • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 5:34 PM #

        On the positive side, I think what was interesting about the Twilight series, was the effective mixing of horror and romance that I don’t think this was ever convincingly done before. Yes, we knew vampires had a history of hypnotizing women

        Despite being a vampire, women actually fell for “Twilight’s” leading man. (Absolutely no offense Robert), but who could have expected this would have happened on this scale?

      • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:20 PM #

        CR- What are u? If u just now figured out I’m crazy. Hahahaha

        • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 8:32 PM #

          I guess you’re right, I apologize.

    • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 7:51 PM #

      I agree with OB too. It was just my Mum and I growing up and I was busy trying to get A+ on every subject I could rather than boyfriends as well. Because it was just us two, we had (and still do) honest and open discussions about any topic. So something like Twilight (I’m trying to think what the equivalent at the time was and I can’t think of anything, lol!) wasn’t needed.

      I too think it’s sad that parents may need something like this to bond over with their children. But it’s not an ideal world so (reluctantly) I have to give Twilight (and any other pop culture idols) some respect in that aspect!

  2. Open Book January 21, 2013 at 1:16 PM #

    Paris-

    “Given the hype and media saturation of the books and films in what positive ways has Twilight impacted your life?”

    Hmm! It introduced me to Robert Pattinson. I really didn’t think Hollywood had any young twenty something male actors worth paying attention to at the time. I didn’t know who he was before Twilight. Never saw any of his previous films. Anyway, I enjoyed him in the first Twilight and WFE wasn’t tooooo bad but all that other stuff and Twilight 2-5 films????? Well let’s just say. All my time wasted??? Cosmopolis more than made up for all that crap. Hahaha!

    • Open Book January 21, 2013 at 1:30 PM #

      Paris,

      I forgot to add the great thing that happened in my life from Twilight? I met u, LB, Ozzie and Lurker. That I truly can thank Twilight for.

    • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 12:02 AM #

      Twilight introduced me to Robert Pattinson as well although I do remember him from his Cedric Diggory days and knew he looked familiar but couldn’t place him.

      Rob sure has come a long way. He still has ways to go though.

      Last but not least I am eternally grateful to the Twilight fandom for putting me in the lives of you, LB, Lurker, Ozzie and CR. Even though it is batshit crazy (oh and thanks Nancy for showing the world how to be truly delusional-nice blur of the lines there.)

      • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:18 PM #

        Yeah! Rob does have a long ways to go but Cosmopolis was good to start with out of the gate and his other projects coming up sound (just as) if not more interesting than Cosmo.

      • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 7:57 PM #

        Same for me too! I wouldn’t have met everyone here and others if it wasn’t for this book. I wouldn’t be able to learn as much as I do about the media from this site, which I value so much more than Twilight (I’m a nerd, I need to learn how things work, lol).

  3. Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 5:02 PM #

    A lot of people consider the earnings of “Twilight” as it’s most positive feature. I don’t want to be cynical but many studios consider box office earnings the most essential aspect of a feature film experience. Excellent box office can even provide actors with greater longevity as film production/development participants.

    Speaking of directors, all having previous experience, many have already produced other films for other studios or projects.

    Director: Katherine Hardwicke
    Since “Twilight”: “Red Riding Hood”
    2013: Plush

    Director: Chris Weitz
    Since “Twilight: New Moon”: “A Better Life”

    Director: David Slade
    Since “Twilight: Eclipse”: television
    Breaking Bad
    Awake
    Hannibal
    This American Housewife

    Director: Bill Condon
    Since “Twilight: Breaking Dawn pt. 1 & pt.2”:
    The Man Who Sold the World

  4. Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 5:03 PM #

    Speaking of the actors many have already worked on other films or for other studios or projects and are planning more in the future. IMDB claims these future films for actors of the series:

    – Kristin Stewart
    Since “Twilight: Breaking Dawn pt. 1 & pt.2”:
    Snow White and the Huntsman 2

    – Robert Pattinson
    Since “Twilight: Breaking Dawn pt. 1 & pt.2”:
    Queen of the Desert
    Mission: Blacklist
    Hold on to Me
    The Rover (2013)
    Maps to the Stars (2013)

    – Taylor Lautner
    Grown Ups 2 (2013)
    Tracers (2013)

    – Peter Facinelli
    Since “Twilight: Breaking Dawn pt. 1 & pt.2”:
    Gallows Hill (2013)
    The Absinthe Drinkers(2014)

    Elizabeth Reaser
    Since “Twilight: Breaking Dawn pt. 1 & pt.2”:
    Liberal Arts (2012)
    The Good Wife (2012)

  5. parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:04 PM #

    I’m finally able to get on! Woo Hoo!

    CR,

    I could tell you a bunch of negative things about Twilight.

    Here goes…..

    A fan has had her work called and her job threatened because she doesn’t believe in Robsten. From what I know she still has her job.

    Another fan’s house burned down and she was told that it was karma for not believing in Robsten.

    When people attend premieres they ask to keep their identities anonymous during an interview and a picture of that person shows her with her head under an umbrella because she doesn’t want to be attacked for her non-belief in Robsten.

    There is a man is Australia right now (I think he’s a pap) who is being harassed on twitter because of Rob and Robsten.

    Lizzy and Victoria can’t have a simple conversation on Twitter about something non-Robert related without a grown woman (she’s 55) telling them to leave their own brother alone and let him live his life.

    Clare has also been called a bitch and his sisters famewhores.

    Where is there anything negative said about Kristen? The only negative things said about Kristen are the TRUTH. Have you seen the recent pics of Kristen for W magazine?

    There are many more and I could be here all night

    • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:05 PM #

      Kristen

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:07 PM #

        Kristen2

        • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:09 PM #

          Hahahahaha! I will be nice!

    • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:07 PM #

      Yeah! I’m glad to see u!!!

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:09 PM #

        Thanks OB! Glad to be here finally. 🙂

    • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:09 PM #

      Wow! I’m speechless this %$^& is still going on with Robsten. When are people going to move on?

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:10 PM #

        That’s what I would like to know. I’m trying to post some pics but I can’t see them.

        • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:11 PM #

          you can see them? Oh good. I can’t.

        • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:25 PM #

          Let me see what’s going on. I will be right back.

          • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:01 PM #

            I can’t see anything either and unfortunately, yes it still goes on. *eye roll*

            • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:13 PM #

              I tried to post Kristen’s pics from the W magazine, OZ. You know the two where she looks like she crawled out of a dumpster with 50 needles in each arm.

              • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:18 PM #

                *gigglesnort* I saw those and they are horrendous. I’d like to know who gives the ok for them to be published.

                • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:22 PM #

                  Those are probably the best normal looking ones they had to work with.

    • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:35 PM #

      This fandom is the most craziest stuff ever.

      Do u think fangirls are worse than fanboys?

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:36 PM #

        Yep I do!

        • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:02 PM #

          Oh dear God, yes! Fangirls are definately worse than fanboys!

    • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 7:36 PM #

      Paris,
      In my search for positive stuff about Twilight I convinced myself that all of the Twilight fandom was really positive; so I planned to drop a link to this article there. So that audience could witness our discussion tonight. Simple enough plan, Huh?

      I went to two sites that gave me around 200 blog and site names (probably tons of overlap) there were Twilight, Stephanie Meyers, Rob, Kristen, & Taylor sites. Simple enough plan, Huh?

      When it came time to execute, I could not understand how most of the blogs worked? Where were you supposed to post, how could you specify anything? And of course their were more fan and paparazzi photographs than anyone could possibly imagine.

      Maybe I did not spend enough time, or maybe I still do not understand that culture enough to know how to speak to or listen to them.

      I don’t understand Robsten, and maybe this is a good thing. Yes, now I finally understand your “batshit” comment.

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:06 PM #

        CR,

        Thanks for trying to think of it as positive and wanting to drop a link but in all honesty I don’t think they would pay attention anyway. You don’t want to understand Robsten. I would think that anyone who does wishes they didn’t (including Rob and Kristen themselves) they have both gone through hell (did i just stick up for her?)

        In all honesty, what this fandom has shown me is that they have no control over anything in their lives but that’s their own fault its called accepting responsibility and facing facts.

        They truly are psychotic. I have never never seen so much vitirol spewed at people for a fantasy. In reality, that’s all it is….a fantasy

      • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:10 PM #

        Welcome to the cult of robsten, CR! I still don’t understand it either. My advice is to run as far and as fast as you can! They can smell independant thoughts and will devour you if you refuse to conform to group thought!

        • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 8:48 PM #

          I guess I can’t argue with you. That (possibly 50 year old woman) who ran out in the street and was hit by a car and killed last year (possibly waiting for tickets) was really sad but even more so freaky. The blogs nor Summit spent less than a minute eulogizing her. Then It was just business as usual.

          Cut throats and psychos make terrible allies.

    • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 8:10 PM #

      Paris,

      How should fans interpret the Forbes magazine story? How can be she be part of the “highest grossing romantic couple” and have next to no new films planned for the near future?

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:16 PM #

        They should interpret that as numbers being fudged. Same with her being the highest paid actress in HW.

        • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:30 PM #

          That wouldn’t surprise me. As much as I hate to say it, she has a great PR team that can spin anything!

  6. parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:12 PM #

    I’m going to say it. She needs to lay off whatever she is on. She looks like she missed one to many methadone dosages. Those are pics for a magazine no less.

    • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:26 PM #

      Did u post pictures?

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:37 PM #

        Yes i did. Can you see them?

        • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:39 PM #

          No!

          • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:24 PM #

            I don’t know what happened but her apperance has declined from when the first film was released to now. Even photos from just over a year ago, you can tell there’s a massive difference from how she looks today. It leaves me speechless!

            • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:27 PM #

              Have you seen that vid of her with MA? Its like two totally different people.

              • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:31 PM #

                It is! It’s shocking. In that respect, I do feel bad for her because whatever caused the change, it can’t have been good.

                • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:33 PM #

                  i agree. Someone really needs to help her out.

              • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:32 PM #

                I guess its taken its toll on her. I’m shocked given she’s suppose to be a seasoned actress being in the business since a child etc…

                • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:34 PM #

                  me too. Her decline is shocking. IA with you OB she’s been in this biz for how long? She should know the ropes.

                  • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:34 PM #

                    Have you seen the video OB of her with her ex Michael?

                    • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:43 PM #

                      No! I’m afraid to ask. When did this come out?

                    • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:44 PM #

                      its been out for years. Hold on i’ll find it.

                    • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:46 PM #

                  • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:44 PM #

                    Perhaps though she’s one of those kids that doesn’t pay attention to anything because mommy and daddy get her the jobs.

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:00 PM #

  7. parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:26 PM #

    CR,

    The thing with making movies is who is going to follow these people once the saga is completely done? ALL of Kristen’s movies outside of Twilight have flopped. She’s not bankable. The only thing she’s got going for her is she positions herself well as we have seen from her photos with Rupert. 😉

    Rob and Kristen are being watched right now because they are still in the Twilight bubble. The bubble is ready to burst.

    • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:29 PM #

      When this bubble burst will it be like the stock market crash in Hollywood?

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:30 PM #

        worse OB much worse. 🙂

        • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:38 PM #

          Hmm! What shall we call it. The Great Twi-session?

          • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:47 PM #

            The break-up that never was because there is no robsten at all ever heard around the world?

            • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:33 PM #

              When that happens I don’t know whether to get some popcorn and watch it or to hid until the wool settles!

              • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:36 PM #

                Get the popcorn I’ll bring the soda and some binoculars and we can sit on your couch. (I’m taking myself out of the country for this one)

                • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:49 PM #

                  ROTFLMAO! What if it spreads here? I think we may need to go to the International Space Station for this one!

                  • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:55 PM #

                    true. 🙂

    • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 8:00 PM #

      Paris,

      I don’t disagree with you. Seems people keep finding new ways to disregard her. I think she might have a chance without the Rupert debacle. Before that happened, she actually had a few movies in her back pocket. It’s kind of shocking that Robert has so many more movies ready to launch and she (supposedly the star of the series) has nothing. And no I don’t think it is sexism.

      She should have a ton of money in her pocket after Breaking Dawn two; maybe she’ll do something constructive with it. I would start by correcting some of what was said in the article below.

      http://www.chacha.com/gallery/1230/who-are-the-15-most-annoying-movie-characters/7360

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:10 PM #

        stopping the nervous ticks would mean she’d actually have to take classes (they teach you how to do that in acting classes) no casting director is going to notice unless one of her ticks happens while she’s flat on her back.

        • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:14 PM #

          Oh! Goodness. Draw it mild Paris.

        • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 8:15 PM #

          As usual, I’m speechless.

          • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:17 PM #

            all I can say is I call it like I see it. 🙂

            • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:26 PM #

              It’s true though.

              • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:27 PM #

                i know. 🙂

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:39 PM #

        I think that the Rupert debacle ruined her in the sense that America is still very modest in its values. No one likes a cheater and since she wasn’t well liked anyway her image is going to have a hard time now especially with these “heroin” looking photos.

  8. ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 7:27 PM #

    Hello everyone!

    Just catching up…

    • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:29 PM #

      Hi, hi, hi OZ!!!!!

    • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:30 PM #

      Hi OZ!

      • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 7:38 PM #

        HI, hi, hi OB and Paris!!! 🙂

        Interesting article Paris. It’s a subject I have heard mentioned before but I’ve never giving it much thought. This is going to be an interesting discussion!

        • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 7:42 PM #

          Ozzie! Just let it rip. Don’t hold back. I like to know what u really think.

        • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 7:44 PM #

          Maybe after the DVD release, many will feel free to let go.

          • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:45 PM #

            That be hard. Some of them are really mentally into this so much so that it effects their ability to live which is truly sad.

            • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:14 PM #

              I pray for that CR but I doubt it will happen because of what Paris said.

        • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 7:47 PM #

          Yeah Oz just say what you feel.

          • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 8:01 PM #

            Enquiring minds want to know.

            • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:15 PM #

              *evil smile* Muahahahahaha!

              • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:29 PM #

                Come on Oz! Don’t be shy. Hahaha

                • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 8:35 PM #

                  Paris is doing a very good job at the moment and saying everything I would say! If she slips, I’ll step in! 🙂

                  • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:37 PM #

                    Alrighty then. I will let u off the hook. Hahahaha!

                  • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:37 PM #

                    help i’ve fallen and I can’t get up! LOL

                    • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:47 PM #

                      Hahaha! Just priceless!

  9. parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:24 PM #

    OB disappeared. I wonder if she’s trying to post those photos. Its ok if she can’t get them.

    • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:28 PM #

      I’m back. I’m here. I can’t find the photos.

      • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:30 PM #

        its cool. I’ll post the links and people can copy and paste if they want. Thanks for trying to help!

        • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:33 PM #

          No problem.

          • Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 8:39 PM #

            The pictures from the web are posted above.

            • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:48 PM #

              I saw them thanks. I guess. Now I wish I hadn’t.

  10. Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:35 PM #

    I think Rob should go to Disneyland when this is all over. That’s my wish for him. Hahaha!

    • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:36 PM #

      I think so too. 🙂

      • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:40 PM #

        …….: )

    • parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:41 PM #

      Although Disneyland is under going extensive refurbishments right now. He might want to try Disney World. It would make it easier to hide as well. 🙂

      • Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:51 PM #

        Oh. Yes! Disney World has much better rides as well. But the lines are longer. What to do? What to do?

  11. Open Book January 22, 2013 at 8:53 PM #

    Everyone!

    I have to go. This was fun Paris. Great job! I will check back tomorrow and comment as well.

    TC!

  12. Comic Relief January 22, 2013 at 8:54 PM #

    Thanks for the article, Paris. Fr a unexpected look into Robsten world which always looks different up close than it looks by way of the tabloids. I sincerely mean that. Bye.

  13. parisienne January 22, 2013 at 8:56 PM #

    Night! Oz I’m still on if you want to chat. 🙂

    • ozzie20 January 22, 2013 at 9:06 PM #

      Ok, I’ll log on now. Reading the comments has knocked the wind out of my sails, so I can add much more than people need to relax! Night everyone!

  14. parisienne January 22, 2013 at 10:57 PM #

    While looking up some positive aspects of Twilight. I came across this article. I know that we have discussed how SM’s religion played a part in the Saga but we can always delve a little deeper.

    http://voices.yahoo.com/the-twilight-gospel-provides-resource-parents-5468447.html

    • Open Book January 24, 2013 at 12:37 PM #

      This is really a great article Paris. In the article it states mothers should speak to their daughters about the negative undertones of the series. Unfortunately, some of the obsessed Twi-Moms and adult women also need help understanding the negative undertones of the series IMO.

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